SALON TOPIC: FRIENDSHIP
Guiding Question: Share the story of a friendship (lost or found) that changed your criteria for friendship.
ADDITIONAL QUESTIONS/THEMES:
Have you ever ended a friendship? What was it like?
Is your partner your best friend?
What is the difference between male friendships and female friendships?
How have friendships changed overtime?
How have friendships changed in the age of social media?
Guidelines for the Host
Attendees. Invitation/Follow Up. Flow. Preparation Material. Facilitation. Atmosphere. Food.
PRE-READINGS/VIEWINGS
Friendship After Love
By Ella Wheeler WilcoxAfter the fierce midsummer all ablaze
Has burned itself to ashes, and expires
In the intensity of its own fires,
There come the mellow, mild, St. Martin days
Crowned with the calm of peace, but sad with haze.
So after Love has led us, till he tires
Of his own throes, and torments, and desires,
Comes large-eyed Friendship: with a restful gaze.
He beckons us to follow, and across
Cool verdant vales we wander free from care.
Is it a touch of frost lies in the air?
Why are we haunted with a sense of loss?
We do not wish the pain back, or the heat;
And yet, and yet, these days are incomplete.
I Knew A Man By Sight
By Henry David ThoreauI knew a man by sight,
A blameless wight,
Who, for a year or more,
Had daily passed my door,
Yet converse none had had with him.
I met him in a lane,
Him and his cane,
About three miles from home,
Where I had chanced to roam,
And volumes stared at him, and he at me.
In a more distant place
I glimpsed his face,
And bowed instinctively;
Starting he bowed to me,
Bowed simultaneously, and passed along.
Next, in a foreign land
I grasped his hand,
And had a social chat,
About this thing and that,
As I had known him well a thousand years.
Late in a wilderness
I shared his mess,
For he had hardships seen,
And I a wanderer been;
He was my bosom friend, and I was his.
And as, methinks, shall all,
Both great and small,
That ever lived on earth,
Early or late their birth,
Stranger and foe, one day each other know.